Avoid Being Judgmental

by Leo Babauta

Be-curiousWe are all judgmental. Yes, even you. I certainly am, many times. I think it’s human nature.

And yet, while it is in our nature to be judgmental, I don’t think it’s always useful to us. We look down on others, as if we are so much better … and that creates division between people.

Think about it for a second: we see someone, and based on their looks or actions, we pass judgment on them. Not good judgment, either. Usually without even knowing the person. And that’s it — that’s usually the extent of our interaction with that person. We don’t make an effort to get to know the person, or understand them, or see whether our judgment was right or not.
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The Secret Of Non-Judgement

from Genius Intelligence

downloadWhen you judge the wisdom of a genius, you are not one yourself. You are instead an arrogant fool that is using their ego and pride as opposed to their true intellect. Then why do we think that judging is good in any situation, when the truth is that every one of us has a genius lying within them?

The truth is that judging things is a complete waste of time. Time is the most precious commodity on this planet, yet we are truly unaware of it for the whole of our lives…until our time runs out. The better way to act is to allow other people’s statements to be lessons which will help us on the way to achieving the intelligence, wisdom and ideals of our dreams. Below you will find some helpful lessons and tools to make sure that you are learning, instead of wasting time.
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The Healing Power of Forgiveness

by Anne Hartley

3366473234_2b515c3b7dI consider myself to be a nice person. I spend a lot of my life – giving to others and teaching positive life skills. However, what I like about myself sometimes makes it hard for me to accept other people when they are inconsiderate, selfish and downright hurtful towards others. You see I have a lot of rules about the way people should treat each other and these rules, when I am not living consciously, make my life harder than it needs to be because I have no control over other people’s behaviour. As a way of remaining conscious and making my own life easier, I have established the habit of forgiving daily and I generally do this each night just before I go to sleep. This simple habit has made my life so much easier.
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Who Among Us Is Most Likely to Forgive?

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forgive“Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

Maybe a caveat should be added before saying this line from The Lord’s Prayer, asking a second round of forgiveness for failing to meet divine standards. Many religious people count on God’s forgiveness, but it is far more difficult to put aside human feelings of bitterness and resentment to pardon others. Continue reading

Revenge or Forgiveness

by Gadadhara Pandit Dasa

forgivenessFor many, the first option might seem to be the most satisfying. After all, it provides immediate justice. It allows us a chance to see the other party suffer and that can bring us some level of pleasure. Seeing people suffer for the wrongs they have done makes us feel that justice was dealt. What would the world be without justice?

Revenge, or “an eye for an eye” approach is becoming the predominating mood in society. We want things quickly, including our justice. We’re running out of patience for just about everything. When the signal turns green, we need the person in front of us to move immediately. We need our computers to boot up faster. During rush hour, I try to be the first one out of the subway car so I don’t have to wait behind all the people going up the stairs. In reality, I probably save myself only about 60 seconds. It’s a little scary to imagine the lack of patience our future generations will have.
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Forgiveness: 10 Steps

 by Brad Hirschfield

ForgiveRosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year, begins on Monday night. Like all New Year’s celebrations, it’s a chance to start over. And starting over often involves forgiveness — both giving it and getting it. Neither of those is easy, but both are within our grasp.
Forgiving someone means that we find the strength to go beyond ourselves to a place that helps us see those who have hurt us in a new way. That’s never easy. Seeking forgiveness rquires us to confront the past, see what we have done wrong, and commit to changing our behavior. That’s huge. But like the ability to forgive others, it is within our grasp. So with Rosh Hashanah approaching fast, here are some tips that will help you to forgive those who have hurt you and seek forgiveness from those you have hurt.
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Is Revenge Ever a Good Idea?

By Judy Merrill

revengeRevenge is never a good idea. Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord. He didn’t say he would use you as an instrument in vengeance. It is just not your position to take the situation into your own hands. The idea is clear.

The world operates on natural law. There are a number at play at any given time in our lives. These laws bring back to us as the sender of energies, the same as we send out. When love is sent, our lives are full of love. When revenge fills our thoughts, our lives are full of revenge.

What goes around, comes around. This is the natural law of cause and effect. When we put a cause into play in our life and affairs, we also reap the consequential effect. It comes naturally. We, as an instrument of revenge, do not make it happen any better, easier or even any faster. No one ever assigned you as the instrument of revenge in any given circumstance.
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Forgiveness: 8 Check Points On This Journey To Freedom

by Trish Whynot

frogiveForgiveness is a journey toward freedom from our past. It can be transformational, complex, is not to be taken lightly and cannot be commanded. If you are patient and open to the unfolding of forgiveness, your desire to forgive will be fulfilled.

There may be plateaus along the way where many of us are lulled into thinking the journey is complete, but you will know you have reached your destination when only love and gratitude remain in your heart for the person you have forgiven. When a hurtful past relationship has been transformed into an opportunity for personal growth and healing for which you are grateful—with or without an apology—then you know you are free. 

I have identified eight stages in the process of forgiveness, or eight check points—points where we must check in with ourselves in order to stay on the forgiveness path. You may encounter none or you may encounter them all, but each one can free you from a misconceived notion obstructing forgiveness.

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Forgiveness Exercises

from Help Yourself Stress Relief

forgivenessForgiveness exercises are steps to forgiveness that empower your heart. Forgiveness exercises help you let go of anger and release the burden of pain.

The relief of forgiveness is unmistakable. At times, it comes in a rush. At other times, it comes in gentle waves bringing refreshment to you and your heart.

Hurt is real. Holding onto hurt instead of healing it can turn into resentment. Resentment fuels a grudge. And this can create a wall around your heart. Over time, the natural compassion of your heart diminishes in intensity.
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Forgiveness

by Randy Gage

forgive-blocks-320x212Forgiving someone is a conscious choice to let go of resentment, move past old drama, and go forward to happiness.  And it’s the perfect demonstration of the vacuum law of prosperity.

Because if you have vengeance in your heart, there’s no room for love.  You have to create a vacuum for the good to come in.

You don’t practice forgiveness for the other person as much as you do for yourself.  And speaking of yourself, who do you think the hardest person to forgive is?
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